How Big Is Your Boulder?
When you see a challenge, what do you see? When we look at a challenge, it can seem like a massive boulder we're incapable of moving. As we shift our perspective, the boulder begins to change, or rather how we perceive it changes. Here are a few tips to help the boulders of life seem less daunting.
How Big Is Your Boulder?
It's important to recognize our perspective on the challenge itself. Sometimes our perspective can be slightly skewed due to not having enough information about the challenge or having the wrong information. We may also be looking at our challenges through a lens of fear and doubt that can dramatically alter the appearance of our challenges. Take public speaking for example.
Public speaking is one of the most challenging things for people to do and it can seem like one of those immovable boulders.
You can look at this boulder in two ways one is through a lens of fear and doubt, and the other is through a lens of truth and realism. The fears and doubts say that you will be ridiculed in front of the audience and that you're not good at it so why bother. It says that public speaking is only for those gifted few who can speak with no fear and anxiety. All these words conjure images of a massive boulder.
Now let's look at it more realistically and rationally. The truth is that in general people are very supportive when another person is on stage. You won't get booed! Very few people are born with skills to public speak, and many more have to practice and develop over time. These are more realistic views on public speaking, and with this in mind the challenge of public speaking becomes more manageable.
Whether it's public speaking, becoming assertive, or any other challenge in life, it's important to ask "how big is this boulder?" Analyse it and see it for what it really is; don't let a skewed perspective on it blow it out of proportion and freeze you into inaction. It's also helpful to be mindful of how we describe our challenges. The language we use can also make them grow larger than they need to be.
If your perspective on yourself is skewed, it can make the challenges of life seem much bigger than they are as well. When a person is full of doubt, timidity, and hesitation, everything is more difficult.
A person that sees themselves in a different light has a clear understanding of themselves, that they're not perfect, but will always give it their best. A person with a positive perspective on themselves will understand that things take time to master, and that no one is an expert over night. A confident person uses positive language when they communicate with themselves. When faced with a challenge they tell themselves they CAN do it, and never put themselves down. They are their own best advocates cheering themselves on to meet the challenge. When this perspective is strong in someone it empowers them to achieve and the boulders of life are once again are made just that little bit smaller.
The opposite does not provide a person with the energy to undertake challenging tasks and everything they face will seem far too big to bear for their shoulders. Heads up and eyes up. Look at yourself in the mirror and be honest with yourself, be kind to yourself. This will help you grow in the face of your challenges, and your challenges will shrink.
The last item on our list of facing the boulders of life is to equip yourself with the tools you'll need to achieve. No one can climb a mountain with out the necessary tools. There are so many resources at our disposal to use. It pays tremendously to take a proactive approach to finding and using these resources. There are mentors, coaches, books, the internet, articles, clubs, worksheets, masterminds, courses, etc and all these things help us to achieve our goals. These resources won't come to us, we have to seek them out, use them, and apply them in our lives.
Think of the sculptor, who uses the chisel to carve out stone. The small strokes of precision chip away to reveal the vision in their mind. Your tools are your knowledge, skills, talents, intelligence, and other resources to do the same. Using your tools will help you to chip away at your challenges in life, to grind them down, so that you can achieve the vision you have in your mind.
When you have the right perspective on yourself, your challenges, and are equipped with the tools necessary, the challenges you have in life won't seem so monumental. Be mindful of how you describe your challenges and ask yourself, "am I making this boulder bigger than it needs to be?"
Take a realistic look at your challenges and they won't seem so big. When we see ourselves with the right perspective our challenges are kept in perspective too. Lastly when we have the resources. By the time we've been through this refining process around our challenges all we're left with is a manageable stone, rather than an immovable boulder. The stone still has weight, the challenge is still there, but the difference is it's manageable. If a challenge is too great, it can be hard to face. Let's not make it bigger than it needs to be. It may be the difference between you bearing down on your challenges, instead of your challenges bearing down on you.
How big is your boulder?
How do you simplify your challenges?
Assertive Life 2016-10-24